Parenting is one of the most toughest task out there. You have to shed the long lived version of you and develop a new personality to impart to your younger generation. Thus, hassles tend to grow and if not tackled properly, these hassles are potential enough to ruin relationships.
A study has found that negative features of parenting, such as depression and psychological control, increase the risk of breaking up childhood friendships. The results showed that for children with clinically depressed parents, the risk of best friendship dissolution increased by up to 104 per cent. There was a similar, although not quite as dramatic, increase in the risk of best friendship dissolution for children with psychologically controlling parents.
For the study, published in the Journal of Family Psychology, the team looked at 1,523 children. Among them 766 were boys, from grades one to six. They conducted a survival analysis to identify the characteristics of parents that predict the stability of their children's friendships.The researchers also examined the parenting styles to predict the occurrence and timing of the dissolution of kids' best friendships from the beginning to the end of elementary school (grades one to six).
Brett Laursen, Professor at Florida Atlantic University (FAU), US, quoted:-
"We already know that peer status plays an important role in friendship outcomes. For example, well-liked children have more long-lasting relationships than do their classmates
But children with depressed and psychologically controlling parents are not learning healthy strategies for engaging with other people, which could have long-term consequences for their future relationships"
But, astonishingly, there were no evidence that positive parenting behaviors like warmth and affection altered the stability of children's best friendships.
Laursen addressed the issue and commented:
"We were hoping that positive behaviours would help extend the life of friendships and that it would be a buffer or a protective factor.This was not the case. Warmth and affection don't appear to make that much of a difference. It is the negative characteristics of parents that are key in determining if and when these childhood friendships end"