Modern-day problems are way too complicated than the one in the hitherto days. Same goes along with relationships in modern times and marriages. Love didn’t know that it’s going to face such huge problems with every passing of days. Anurag Kashyap’s Manmarziyaan puts forward the question - 'Is love enough?'. It speaks for every Indian woman swinging between desire & stability, when it comes to marriage. Pressure from family's side doesn't help either, when we are already battling with ourselves from within.
The dilemma of marrying the one you love or the one your parents deem fit for you is tormenting. Society, including family, inevitably puts a huge pressure on women to 'settle down' with a 'good guy' as soon as they reach a certain age. Marrying a good guy suggests a guy foremost with financial stability, a well-reputed job and of course with a good family background. No matter a girl would also want something same from her man. But love doesn’t necessarily come in a suited-booted form. Sometimes it’s shabby, it's child-like and rough and becomes a habit which is irresistible. Such love has got no reason to be loved, it just happens.
Devisha Batra, Relationship Counsellor at IWill by ePsyclinic, says"The fear of 'what will people say' affects most of us. Maintaining a status in society, choosing a partner that matches our status is mostly driven by what will society think... Choosing a partner can also be influenced by society’s fear... The anxiety and apprehensions about their own image in front of society contributes a lot. Their own perception seems to be then guided by society."
Between two options - love versus arranged - for women, another choice of love versus security follows. Devisha Batra says, "This dichotomy of desire and stability can create a lot of possibilities of apprehension and fear for some. While many would find being in a romantic relationship fruitful and the feeling of being loved, for others it is important to have secure and stable relationships. For some the desire and passion would provide immense relationship success and powerful inclination to be closed to a loved one and wanting to spend with the partner."
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