You develop a distinct kind of relationship with different people in your vicinity. You would act differently when around your soulmate than your boss or employees. It happens to all of us and it's perfectly fine. Relationships with others are what makes life meaningful. Often times, though, they can be challenging to navigate. What should you be doing then? Well, trying to subdue what discomforts you and here is how you can pull the rein of something that has been discomforting you.
"I keep getting into toxic relationships that I know don't work. How do I get out of this cycle?" It’s important to first identify the toxic traits of those in your life. How do you feel when you’re around someone in question? If you find yourself experiencing tension, anxiety, or stress — don’t ignore it. Those responses might provide you with valuable info about what to avoid in new relationships.
Something to keep in mind while swiping: We often stick with what’s familiar, even if what’s familiar is damaging. Look out for any obvious red flags when reading someone’s bio; for example, does the person have a laundry list of things they don’t like but a relatively small list of things that they do enjoy? You can tell quite a bit about a person’s sense of optimism and hope based on their profile. Then work to consciously ignore the judgment and focus on the possibilities within the person.
Do you end up comparing yourself to other people? Even strangers on social media. Happens to all of us but the question is how do we stop? The easiest way not to do something is to do the opposite of that thing. So, what’s the opposite of comparing yourself to others? It’s celebrating who you are. Maybe that’s achieved by writing daily affirmations, by practicing gratitude, or by journaling about your self-worth. Maybe it’s as simple as putting on Beyoncé and dancing around your apartment. Find ways to let go of the idea that you’re not enough. By the way, remember that this is a process. Are there going to be days where you still lapse into that habit of self-comparison? Probably. But feel empowered to press the stop button and refocus your attention on all the worth that you bring.
I often get intimidated by my colleagues’ accomplishments and let it psych me out about my own abilities. How can I stop comparing myself? It’s not uncommon for people to go through their lives constantly measuring themselves up to others — especially when it comes to their careers. However, this tendency can deprive you of the opportunity to seek mentorship and guidance from people you admire in your industry. Instead of comparing yourself to others and thinking, “I can’t measure up,” or, “I’ll never be enough,” focus on how you can create relationships with others in order to learn and grow from them.
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